In one of these I discussed how I am overprotective of women. Don't get me wrong, my mother raised me that "a woman can do anything a man can do, but if a man is available she shouldn't have to" So I don't feel it is my duty to protect women. However I do feel at times there should be an intersession.
One of these times, when I was in my twenties, our gaming group had a member who was abusive to his wife. One day when we were at their house, the mr and mrs got into an argument. Several other friends were attempting to talk him down while he was pushing and shoving her into a wall. Just as I got to the top of the stairs he hit (and or) slapped her. To wit, I grabbed him by his neck and threw/shoved him down the stairs.
This is the story that was told. My date asked if I'd had done the same if she had hit the husband and I said I would have broken it up but no I would not had thrown her down the stairs.
Apparently, this made my date come to the conclusion that I have anger issues. Which I can see her point, when I was a younger man I was very much angry at a lot of things. But since she had dealt with men with anger issues in the past and it always turned out badly for her, she chose to remove herself from the chance of anything happening to her in the future.
THIS is an acceptable answer!!! I can live with this way better than "I don't know what to tell you I'm not interested". So I've been much better since then, other than the guilt of having made her feel uncomfortable or that I would ever hurt her. Which I wouldn't. I've always said that the moment a man raises his hand to a woman in anger, he is no longer a man.
But any rate, I have my answer. I accept it as a "no", and No means no.
As an aside, I will no longer seek to date humans, I will now be attempting to make contact with alien life
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